A couple appeared on the Steve Harvey Show recently to discuss the wife’s frustration over how negatively her husband has responded to her new hair style. She had transitioned to a natural hair style. After watching this episode I reminded me of a post I wrote for my wife blog.
Natural Hair Rules has raised a very important question “What are men saying about natural hair?”
I think that that there is a much larger number of black men who are attracted to girls with ’straight’ hair. Society has taught them that Natural is Nappy and Nappy is ugly and undignified. Now there is nothing with wanting to appeal to men. Women like to look physically attractive to men, it’s natural (and vice versa).
I love a woman with natural hair because it is like her finger print. It’s hers and no one has her print. Any man who cannot see the beauty of natural hair is missing the big picture in my opinion. ( Side bar what made Black women straighten there hair to begin with…. Think about it ??) I don’t apportion blame onto women because so much of the female identity is still wrapped up in the patriarchy that controls the majority of societies in the world. I think natural hair is beautiful because it’s blackness personified before manipulation. It’s a shame some black men could not see the beauty of natural hair.
I enjoy a woman who is confident in herself. For example, my wife Tamara is wearing natural hair and even with no make up she still looks dynamically gorgeous. Her non-conforming appearance seems to point to the fact that this particular woman is not swayed by the superficial facades of societies standard of what a beautiful black woman is. Natural is beautiful. This does not mean, however, that women who have perms and/or weave are shallow or lost or not real . It just seems that they are less likely to reject the “medias” standards of beauty. I won’t say that one is better than the other…just that being confident in your own skin is attractive…regardless of which package it comes in.